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Ugh. I write it, close my eyes, and cringe waiting for the inevitable wrath. Submission is such a dirty word to a lot of woman. Some who just don’t know what it means – they hear submission and they think: slave, forced labor, oppression, suppression, weakness, obey… Some woman have poor male examples and relationships in their life and the idea of submitting to those men is the last thing they want to do. BUT God tells us to submit – so what do we do if God designs our role in marriage one way, and we feel totally offended or turned off by it? I was second shooting a wedding a few years ago and the main photographer and I were listening to the sermon. He read this verse posted above and the photographer whispered, “I can’t believe people actually believe this stuff.” I was not sure how to respond because I, well, do.
Let’s dig a little and find out what this word actually MEANS. In the Greek, the original language, SUBMISSION is actually a beautiful thing! It is the word: hypotass? which is a military term meaning “arranging yourself under.” So, in a marriage, the wife is to arrange herself under her husband’s authority. It’s nothing more than a voluntary attitude of cooperating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden. No one is being oppressed. This is not weak. This is not obedience. This is a choice. An attidude. It is respect. It is love. It is right.
Does it shock you that this is God’s design for woman in marriage? What are your initial thoughts when you hear the word?
Guys also have a role in marriage, however, submission isn’t contingent on men getting it right. That being said, every marriage is going to look different – even in the concept of submission. It’s a tricky and touchy subject, but I want to challenge you to at least look into it!