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You know, I’m sitting here eating an early lunch of leftover Chinese take-out thinking about marriage, as I often do. I spend my weekends and Monday Mornings preparing for my Marriage Monday posts. But, I obviously don’t have TOO much experience to pull from, so a lot of my words are based on theory. Theories that I love and cling to and I know are not just theories but TRUTH, but sometimes I think, “What can I give to people?”

So today, I decided to pull from an AMAZING people who also are passionate about marriage. One is another photographer who started her own marriage monday series: Shay Cochrane.

Shay wrote a post a few weeks ago that asked the question, “I know you love me, but do you LIKE me?” And then spilled her heart out in a post that rocked my 2 year old marriage. In a good way. She says,

“We love each other. We appreciate each other.
But the constant, urgent, exhausting nature of this season of life
with young kids has distanced the friendship in a way that makes me often question
whether he still actually likes me.”

I’m 4 years into this relationship, 2 years into this marriage, and I have no kids, but sometimes this fear creeps up – what if I’m annoying, what if I’m THAT girl, what if he doesn’t want to come home at night, what if this marriage is only a duty? Chad as not done anything to MAKE me think these things. I’m well loved – believe me! But I wonder if this fear isn’t as imaginary for some people. Anyway, shay writes a beautiful article so go to it and read it…

HERE.